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St Mary's step-by-step wedding guide
From your first contact with us to your first wedding anniversary and beyond, we’re here at St Mary’s to support you at every step.
Attend a service
Attend a Sunday morning service at St Mary’s, tell the rector (Revd Trevor Kirkman) your good news and make an appointment for a meeting at which you can discuss what happens next.
Before your meeting, consider any issues you may have and questions you’d like answered. For example, what are the options if you don’t live in the Parish (see Eligibility below) or if one of you is divorced? There are also legal matters that must be addressed, all of which Revd Trevor can advise upon.
Banns are declarations that are read out at three Sunday morning services announcing your intention to marry. They provide an opportunity for everyone in church to pray for you.
It can be a very special and moving occasion, so come along if you can. Depending on where you live, Banns may be read at other churches.
Planning the service
You will meet with Revd Trevor to discuss the format of the service, for example which hymns, readings and prayers you may want during the service; and the music you would like played when you enter and leave the church and when signing the registers.
Near your wedding day, perhaps a day or two before, you will have the opportunity to have a rehearsal before your big day.
The Big Day
Revd Trevor will make the day a personal, meaningful and spiritual experience for you and your guests.
Your First Anniversary and beyond
St Mary's will always be here for you throughout your marriage if you need us. We would be delighted to mark your first anniversary by praying for you both. All you have to do is ask.
In order to be married at St Mary’s one of you will need to satisfy one of the following three conditions:
- live within the ecclesiastical parish; or
- be an active member of the congregation (with your name entered on the electoral roll); or
- have a Qualifying Connection with the ecclesiastical parish.
You have a Qualifying Connection with the parish if you:
- were baptised or confirmed in the parish; or
- have at any time lived in the parish for at least 6 months; or
- have regularly worshipped in the parish for at least 6 months.
OR if one of your parents has, during your lifetime:
- lived in the parish for at least 6 months; or
- regularly worshipped in the parish for at least 6 months.
OR if one of your parents or grandparents:
- married in the parish.
As well as the venue and the marriage ceremony, St Mary’s can help complete your special day with:
- organist to accompany your hymns and play your chosen music;
- robed choir to lead the singing of your hymns and to sing anthems while you sign the registers;
- wedding bells - St Mary’s has a well-practised team of ringers who can proclaim your good news to the village;
- floral arrangements - our team of flower arrangers can provide beautiful arrangements in your chosen colour scheme
Find out more from Revd Trevor Kirkman.
Need more information?
The website yourchurchwedding.org can probably answer any other questions you may have about getting married in a Church of England church.