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St Mary's step-by-step wedding guide
From your first contact with us to your first wedding anniversary and beyond, we’re here at St Mary’s to support you at every step.
Attend a service
Attend a Sunday morning service at St Mary’s, tell the Rector (Revd Trevor Kirkman) your good news and make an appointment for a meeting at which you can discuss what happens next.
Before your meeting, consider any issues you may have and questions you’d like answered. For example, what are the options if you don’t live in the Parish (see Eligibility below) or if one of you is divorced? There are also legal matters that must be addressed, all of which Revd Trevor can advise upon.
Banns are declarations that are read out at three Sunday morning services announcing your intention to marry. They provide an opportunity for everyone in church to pray for you.
By law Banns must be published in the Parish where each of you lives as well as in the Church where the wedding is to take place (if different). Banns Certificates confirm that the Banns have been published in the Parish(es) of residence and are required if either of you lives outside St Mary's Parish.
Reading of the Banns can be a very special and moving occasion, so come along if you can.
Planning the service
You will meet with Revd Trevor to discuss the format of the service, for example which hymns, readings and prayers you may want during the service; and the music you would like played when you enter and leave the church and when signing the registers.
Near your wedding day, perhaps a day or two before, you will have the opportunity to have a rehearsal before your big day.
The Big Day
Revd Trevor will make the day a personal, meaningful and spiritual experience for you and your guests.
Your First Anniversary and beyond
St Mary's will always be here for you throughout your marriage if you need us. We would be delighted to mark your first anniversary by praying for you both. All you have to do is ask.
In order to be married at St Mary’s one of you will need to satisfy one of the following three conditions:
- live within the ecclesiastical parish; or
- be an active member of the congregation (with your name entered on the electoral roll); or
- have a Qualifying Connection with the ecclesiastical parish.
You have a Qualifying Connection with the parish if you:
- were baptised or confirmed in the parish; or
- have at any time lived in the parish for at least 6 months; or
- have regularly worshipped in the parish for at least 6 months.
OR if one of your parents has, during your lifetime:
- lived in the parish for at least 6 months; or
- regularly worshipped in the parish for at least 6 months.
OR if one of your parents or grandparents:
- married in the parish.
The Statutory Fees cover publishing the Banns at St Mary's, providing the venue, marriage ceremony and a copy of the entries in the Marriage Registers issued at the time of the wedding (“Marriage Certificate”).
For a small additional fee, St Mary’s can help complete your special day with:
- Verger - the Verger opens the Church one hour before the Service (in case your guests arrive early), prepares the Church, allows anyone who is reading to practise on the sound system, assists the ushers and finally clears up after your guests have gone and returns the Church to normality before locking up;
- Organist - the Church Organist can accompany your hymns and play your chosen music;
- Choir - the robed choir can lead the singing of your hymns and sing anthems while you sign the registers;
- Bells - St Mary’s has a well-practised team of ringers who can proclaim your good news to the village;
- Copyright contribution - if you are having a printed Order of Service containing hymns, it will need to be covered by St Mary's Church Copyright Licence;
- Flowers - our team of flower arrangers can provide beautiful arrangements in your chosen colour scheme
Find out more from Revd Trevor Kirkman.
Need more information?
The website yourchurchwedding.org can probably answer any other questions you may have about getting married in a Church of England church.